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Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa has spoken about how she prefers to be addressed by people who are significantly younger than her, urging them to avoid using overly familiar terms when they do not have an existing relationship with her.
Makinwa made the remarks while reacting to the recent “Good Morning Tony” controversy, which generated conversations on social media about age, familiarity and the way younger people address older individuals.
The media personality said she would rather people greet her politely or simply call her by her name than use terms of endearment such as “dear”, “love” or “hun”.
Makinwa Objects To Over-Familiarity
According to Makinwa, terms of endearment should not automatically be used when addressing someone who is older and with whom the person has no established relationship.
She explained that although she does not have a problem with being addressed by her name, she is uncomfortable when younger people use expressions that suggest a level of familiarity that does not exist.
“Thank you Mr Tony for opening the floor, while we are at it, if I am significantly older than you and we are not familiar in any way, resist the urge to use terms of endearment such as ‘dear, love or hun’ while addressing me. Thanks,” she said.
Her comments came as discussions surrounding appropriate forms of address continued online, with social media users sharing different opinions about how people should communicate across age groups.
‘You Can Call Me By My Name’
Makinwa further clarified that she does not insist on being called “Aunty” simply because she is older.
Instead, she said people are free to address her by her name, provided they do so respectfully.
“A polite hello. You can even call me by name cos everyone knows I’m not hung up on Aunty or Sis,” she said.
The media personality, however, made it clear that she strongly dislikes being addressed as “Sis”.
According to her, the term can create a false sense of closeness between people who may not actually have a meaningful relationship.
Why She Dislikes ‘Sis’
Makinwa explained that her dislike for the term “Sis” is connected to the way some relationships can evolve after people initially become familiar with one another.
She suggested that people may begin by calling someone “Sis” and later become adversaries when the relationship deteriorates.
“Sis irritates the f@ck outta me cos first they call you sis, next they are the opp,” she added.
Her remarks appeared to highlight her preference for clear boundaries, particularly when interacting with people who are younger and not personally close to her.
Rather than creating an artificial sense of familiarity, she encouraged people to maintain a respectful distance in the way they communicate.
‘Good Morning Tony’ Controversy
Makinwa’s comments came in the wake of the “Good Morning Tony” controversy, which sparked a broader conversation about greetings and social etiquette.
The issue generated reactions from social media users, with discussions focusing on whether younger people should use familiar expressions when addressing older individuals they do not know personally.
Makinwa used the conversation to explain her own preferences and set boundaries around how she wants people to communicate with her.
She stressed that respect does not necessarily require the use of traditional titles or formal expressions.
For her, a simple and polite greeting is sufficient.
Makinwa Sets Personal Boundaries
The media personality’s comments have also drawn attention to the different ways people establish boundaries in social interactions.
While terms such as “dear”, “love”, “hun” and “Sis” may be used casually by some people, Makinwa believes they can sometimes be inappropriate when there is no existing relationship between the individuals involved.
Her position is that people should avoid assuming familiarity and instead allow relationships to develop naturally.
At the same time, she made it clear that she is not demanding that people address her as “Aunty” or use any particular honorific.
Instead, she prefers a respectful greeting or simply being called Toke.
Her comments have added another perspective to the ongoing conversation about age, respect, familiarity and social boundaries in modern communication.
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