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Nene Aderigbigbe, mother of award-winning singer Ayra Starr, has opened up about a deeply personal decision to permanently walk away from three close friendships, shedding light on the boundaries that led her to that choice.
In a reflective New Year message shared on TikTok, Aderigbigbe revisited past events that shaped her relationships, admitting that she recently questioned whether she had been too harsh. However, as she revisited each experience, she reaffirmed her reasons for cutting ties.
“So I was reflecting on life, you know, it is a new year, and you want to reflect and see what you can correct. I now remember that a few years ago, I cut off from a few of my friends. I do not know if I overreacted, and do you know why I did it?” she said.
According to her, the first friendship ended after what she described as a serious breach of trust. She explained that the friend disclosed a private conversation they had shared to her husband without consent.
“Three of them, we are friends, we talk together about women’s things. The next day, one of them was now telling me that the thing we had discussed, I told my husband. I was like why but she was like I told my husband and he said it’s okay. She cut the phone, since that day till now, I have not picked up her call,” Aderigbigbe recounted.
She expressed her displeasure over the incident, stressing that confidentiality was essential in any friendship. Questioning the necessity of involving a spouse in such conversations, she made it clear that the action crossed a line for her.
“Because why would you go and tell your husband what me and you were talking about? Do I know your husband? Is it not you I met, and we became friends? I do not want those kinds of friends. And if she is watching this video, that is why I do not talk to you again,” she added.
The second friendship, she revealed, ended due to what she described as uncomfortable and inappropriate communication from the friend’s husband. Aderigbigbe said the situation made her uneasy and forced her to set firm boundaries.
“The second person, I am your friend, why will your husband be telling me I am in America. Mummy Oyinkan, I just arrived in London. Why are you telling me you are in America? Did I send you there? I am your wife’s friend, I do not want to be your friend,” she said.
She went further to explain that unsolicited messages from a friend’s spouse were unacceptable to her, regardless of intentions.
“Do not text me, I am not comfortable with it, not everybody is comfortable with something like that. I just do not like it,” she stated firmly.
The third friendship, according to Aderigbigbe, ended due to emotional exhaustion. She described a longtime friend who repeatedly called to complain about her husband, despite being married for more than two decades.
“The third person, the reason I cut her off is that you have been married for 20 years, but she would still be calling me to report her husband to me,” she said.
Expressing frustration, she questioned what was expected of her in such situations, noting that the constant complaints took a toll on her mental health.
“Do you want me to go and beat him where he is? Marriage that you have endured for years, so what do you want me to say? Why do you want to drain me mentally?” she added.
Aderigbigbe concluded by revealing that none of the three former friends were ever told the reasons behind her decision to distance herself from them.
“So that is why I cut those friends off, and till today, they do not even know why,” she said.
Her candid reflections have sparked conversations online about personal boundaries, emotional well-being, and the difficult choices people sometimes make to protect their peace.
Watch her speak below:
@genzmummy0 I stepped away from some friendships not in anger, but in obedience to my growth and peace. God knows what I need in every season.
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