Are public proposals a bad idea?

Proposing to the love of your life in public may seem all romantic and intriguing, but it can actually be a bit weird, especially if you’re unsure of what your partner’s response will be.

A lot of people regard public proposals as manipulative, and that's understandable, as seeing unfamiliar faces and being in a very open space can influence a woman's decision, particularly if she is not yet ready.

Another reason why public proposals are viewed as manipulative is that if the woman is truly not ready and doesn’t accept it, she will be portrayed as a bad and selfish person, yet, if she accepts out of pity or fear of public space, it will be the start of an unhappy marriage.

So, which is better: Public proposals or private proposals?

Well, it doesn’t really matter which one you opt for. Public or private proposals all have their pros and cons, choose the one suitable for you and your partner.

However, before popping the question, there are a few things you should both talk about. This will help you in deciding on the best proposal format.

1. Is she shy?

Shy people enjoy their own space and prefer to be in a private, warm setting. If you want to get a sincere response from your shy partner, it’s better to have a private proposal. Public proposals will get them nervous and they might say “yes” to you out of fear of being judged by the strange faces around.

2. Are you both ready?

Before proposing to her, you should both be willing and ready to marry each other. This will take away any fears of getting rejected in public.

3. What’s her dream proposal like?

Ask her about her dream proposal, ask if she loves an open or private proposal, ask whether she wants her friends and family around or just you both with cameras.

All these questions are necessary not only for public proposals but also for private ones. Knowing what your partner wants is crucial when planning a proposal; it demonstrates your seriousness and will spare you from avoidable pain.

Finally, a public proposal isn't a bad idea if you're certain that's what she wants.